Olivia is heartbroken today. So let’s collect all the tried and true, and the cliché, and my own pearls of wisdom to help her through it.
Eat. I have a voucher for Free Delicious Oklahoma Baby Back Ribs at Burgoo in Podium. You can have it (Terms and Conditions apply). Experience tells me that it's hard to be sad when you're full.
Don’t wallow in misery, like a pig in a mudhole. Stop the ‘Poor me!’ litany. You’re not the only miserable person in the world. The death toll for the Japan earthquake is now at 9,000+, they had an earthquake, a tsunami, and it’s snowing over there, so what’s their loss compared to yours?
Do something that usually makes you happy (but doesn’t necessarily remind you of the good times with him). Something that’s only for you. Buy a nice pair of 5-inch-heels. Get a Powerbooks overdose. Get a new guitar. Cut your hair and dye it purple.
Take some time alone. Check in a hotel, get a single room, and soak in the bathtub. Take a long drive to where there isn’t so much pollution and you can actually see the sky. Take a book and hit the beach. (But don’t stare at the half-clothed couples while they’re necking; it will make you feel worse.) It will give you space to think and listen to what your heart really says. After a while, it will tell you that alone doesn’t mean lonely.
Stop hunting Mr. Right. Sometimes it’s better to be content with Mr. Right Now. You cannot equate every man you meet with visions of sitting side by side on rocking chairs when you’re both 80 and happily senile. Men will always fall short of your expectations of forever, because they’re human. What life often gives you is the chance to live fully in the present, because now is the only time you own.
Don’t hate the happy people around you. If you can’t stand the sight of lovers entwined in SM Megamall’s escalators at lunch time, don’t throw dagger looks at them. Go eat somewhere else, or spend your break Unfriending people at Facebook. Jealousy is a social disease, so quit it.
Allow yourself a good cry, then move on. Every loss deserves a tear, but there’s no sense wetting the pillow night after night over it. At some point you have to stop, because all it leaves you is puffy eyes in the morning and a pile of laundry. Go get drunk with friends instead.
Love yourself. A break-up diminishes your self-esteem, but it does not diminish your worth as a person. Remember all the reasons why you were loved in the first place, and that is your assurance that you are worthy to be loved again. You are smart, you are financially independent, you are talented, you have good friends, you have a car that doesn't break down in the middle of Edsa on a Monday morning. And so what if you don't feel so beautiful today? That's why they have Avon. :-)
Life is like a wheel. You’re heartbroken today, maybe tomorrow you’ll meet the next man who will make you laugh. Ever think why the sky looks so much nicer after a hard rain? The rain washes off all the grime and dirt and gloom, and the sunshine lights up the world again. So it is with the loves of your life. A heartbreak comes. You cry to wash away the hurt and pain. And it leaves you free so you can feel warm again.
Eat. I have a voucher for Free Delicious Oklahoma Baby Back Ribs at Burgoo in Podium. You can have it (Terms and Conditions apply). Experience tells me that it's hard to be sad when you're full.
Don’t wallow in misery, like a pig in a mudhole. Stop the ‘Poor me!’ litany. You’re not the only miserable person in the world. The death toll for the Japan earthquake is now at 9,000+, they had an earthquake, a tsunami, and it’s snowing over there, so what’s their loss compared to yours?
Do something that usually makes you happy (but doesn’t necessarily remind you of the good times with him). Something that’s only for you. Buy a nice pair of 5-inch-heels. Get a Powerbooks overdose. Get a new guitar. Cut your hair and dye it purple.
Take some time alone. Check in a hotel, get a single room, and soak in the bathtub. Take a long drive to where there isn’t so much pollution and you can actually see the sky. Take a book and hit the beach. (But don’t stare at the half-clothed couples while they’re necking; it will make you feel worse.) It will give you space to think and listen to what your heart really says. After a while, it will tell you that alone doesn’t mean lonely.
Stop hunting Mr. Right. Sometimes it’s better to be content with Mr. Right Now. You cannot equate every man you meet with visions of sitting side by side on rocking chairs when you’re both 80 and happily senile. Men will always fall short of your expectations of forever, because they’re human. What life often gives you is the chance to live fully in the present, because now is the only time you own.
Don’t hate the happy people around you. If you can’t stand the sight of lovers entwined in SM Megamall’s escalators at lunch time, don’t throw dagger looks at them. Go eat somewhere else, or spend your break Unfriending people at Facebook. Jealousy is a social disease, so quit it.
Allow yourself a good cry, then move on. Every loss deserves a tear, but there’s no sense wetting the pillow night after night over it. At some point you have to stop, because all it leaves you is puffy eyes in the morning and a pile of laundry. Go get drunk with friends instead.
Love yourself. A break-up diminishes your self-esteem, but it does not diminish your worth as a person. Remember all the reasons why you were loved in the first place, and that is your assurance that you are worthy to be loved again. You are smart, you are financially independent, you are talented, you have good friends, you have a car that doesn't break down in the middle of Edsa on a Monday morning. And so what if you don't feel so beautiful today? That's why they have Avon. :-)
Life is like a wheel. You’re heartbroken today, maybe tomorrow you’ll meet the next man who will make you laugh. Ever think why the sky looks so much nicer after a hard rain? The rain washes off all the grime and dirt and gloom, and the sunshine lights up the world again. So it is with the loves of your life. A heartbreak comes. You cry to wash away the hurt and pain. And it leaves you free so you can feel warm again.
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Hi sexy lady! How I wish I could write the way you do :-)
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